One of the commitments we make in the money program is to listen for each other's brilliance and authenticity. Sounds great. Loving and generous. But I've struggled with this until I realized I was stuck in my black-and-white, all-or-nothing thinking. The commitment doesn't ask me to interpret everything someone says as brilliant or authentic. That would assume a level of perfection that none of us reach. But I can listen for those times when people are brilliant and authentic.
I can stay open to the possibility that something any individual says can be just what I need to hear, can spark an idea in me, can suggest a solution. Or some way that individual or another individual has of being in the world can model something great for me. Maybe I experience their vulnerability, their generosity, their kindness and see how that can speak to me.
This is also one of those many things that I can make hard to practice or easy to shift into. My choice.