So how do we get out of the excuse loop, out of justifying our behavior, behavior we say we don't want, and blaming our circumstances?
We have to take our power back and use it for what we want, not more of the same but the difference that we're trying to create in our lives. Blaming circumstances is abdicating our power to choose. And of course, choice only exists in the present moment. So we have to pay attention to how we're feeling and what's happening around us.
There are many situations and circumstances that we can't control, but we can control how we respond to them. I'm not telling you anything you haven't heard six dozen times before. But for those of us seeking recovery from addiction, for relief from a well-worn habitual groove in our responses (like eating, drinking, drugging, gambling), we can't afford to not pay attention. We have to assume that we are response-able in each of our circumstances to make choices that support us. We have to let go of excuses and explanations and do what we say we will so we can have what we say we want.