I've started reading Gilbert's Big Magic. I've had it on Kindle for a while and wasn't sure why I bought it (did I really need yet another book on creativity?) or why I hadn't started reading it (did I really need more encouragement to be creative?) But I'm liking it and I'm finding it's more about fearless living than anything else.
In the first chapter, she quotes a saying I hadn't heard before: "Argue for your limitations and you get to keep them." I had to laugh when I read this. Of course we do. We are usually so full of excuses and justifications for why we can't get what we want, do what we want, have what we want that we are arguing to stay stuck.
I've had conversations with two friends in the past week who are dealing with others who are stuck, who are arguing for their limitations. One is trying hard to keep her mother in independent living but her mother has a list of limitations a mile long that she's arguing to keep. Another is dealing with an obese friend with diabetes who has well-honed excuses for why she can't do a healthy food plan and exercise.
I have much personal experience with this. I lived for decades arguing for all the limitations of my abusive relationship, my unhealthy professional situation, my addictions. I know how hard it is to get unstuck, but clearly a key is letting go of our need for those limitations so we can step into possibility.