Friday, February 24, 2017

Last call for the 2-week Bright Line Eating program

Bright Line Eating has extended the sign up for its 2-week introductory program until March 18. You can find out more here: 

This course worked wonders for me. I recommend it if you are ready to step fully into recovery from sugar and food addition.

Jill Kelly
Candy Girl: How I gave up sugar and created a sweeter life between meals
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Monday, February 20, 2017

Oliver Stone's The Untold History of the United States

When I hear about something from several trusted friends, I generally take a look if it interests me. Oliver Stone's documentary series on the the 20th century (available on Netflix) concerning historical information that mostly has not been revealed to the public came up three times and so I started watching.

As a well educated person, I know that no history is objective, that all history is slanted in a certain direction, looked at through filters and the biases of the historian. And Stone makes it very clear in the beginning that he has an agenda. And I still find what he reveals shocking and discouraging.

The racism and bigotry of Truman and Johnson and Nixon in their own words is blatant. I knew of Kennedy's struggles with drug addiction but didn't realize how deep it went. The spin on the atomic bombs on Japan was that the bombs helped us win the second world war but according to Truman's writings, he used them to frighten the Russians. The Japanese had already been destroyed, mostly by the Russians, and were willing to surrender weeks before Hiroshima and Nagasaki. None of those people had to die.

Although the documentary was done before the Trump disaster began, it's clear from Stone's work and my own deep reading for a client of America's relationship with Vietnam that America as a political institution hasn't been great for a very long time. And I know that Make America Great Again that Trump calls for is an economic power, not one of integrity, kindness, generosity, the qualities of true diplomacy.

Fortunately, every American that I know personally is rich in those qualities. Now if we could get our political act together and become a solution instead of a problem. 

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Thursday, February 16, 2017

Setting my intention for 2017

Every year in early January, I set an intention, a mantra of sorts, for the next year. I first did this about six years ago or so when I vowed to never be in a hurry again. I took on the intention and then began to move into actions that shifted my behavior and my attitude about time. It was so successful (I'm still almost never in a hurry) that each year I've chosen another change to make or behavior to enhance.

This year, for a reason that hasn't come clear, I've struggled to find the right intention. I started off with Do the next right thing but I quickly realized that I pretty much do that anyway, thanks to many years of 12-Step living.

So I cast around for another idea and knew that I wanted to move into being more fully engaged in what I'm doing more of the time. So that became my intention Be fully engaged. And I have been but there was something missing there too. Some things I do are just not calling me to do that. I did feel however that being fully engaged was closer to what I was looking for in an intention.

And then I had the conversation about curiosity that I wrote about in the last post. And I knew right away that this is what is most important to me now. Be curious, not judgemental. Seek information, seek solutions (something new as an answer). I'm settling into this intention and it feels just right.

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Sunday, February 12, 2017

The importance of curiosity in these curious times

I had a great session Monday with my spiritual director and we were talking about the stories that run us and the statements we make to ourselves. And then she related something her therapist had told her and it has been in my thoughts since then.

We can't be both curious and judgemental at the same time. This struck me as very true of my thinking. When I'm judging myself or someone else, my mind is closed. I have decided on my opinion. But when I am curious, my mind is open to considering new information, a new perspective, a shift in thinking. .

Staying curious about the political scene is proving helpful to me. I'm not curious in anything goes way. I'm curious in a what can I do way? What else can I do way?This shift in perspective has eased my anxiety some and is proving applicable in many ways.

Curious (mind open and available ) vs. judgemental (mind closed and decided)I'm voting for curious, not judgemental.

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Thursday, February 9, 2017

Two thoughts on taking action and doing good

Two quotes that are on my desk at the moment:

Matthew Kelly: Start by doing some good thing that you feel motivated to do. Any good thing will do. The universe will reveal more. 

John Wesley: Do all the good you can, by all the means you can.

Monday, February 6, 2017

If you're wanting to try Bright Line Eating, an inexpensive short version is now available.

Bright Line Eating, the online program for food addicts, is offering a two-week version at a very low price.

If you're interested, try this link. 

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Saturday, February 4, 2017

My father's 100th birthday

My father was born 100 years ago today (February 4, 1917). In many ways, he was a typical man of his generation. Born into a family with very little, he used his charm and street smarts to move from the working class to the upper middle class over his many jobs and several careers. He worked hard, took risks, invested unwisely, went bankrupt a couple of times, got back up and built it again. He put the four of us kids college, loaned me money for grad school. He stayed married to our mother for more than 50 years and was her steadfast companion through dementia and her death when they were both 80. He married an old friend whom we all adore and had five happy years with her until his own death from complications of prostate cancer.

My father was a big, handsome Irishman who could charm and talk to anyone. He knew famous people by chance. He was the favorite of every waitress he ever encountered. He was also a hypochondriac, a romantic, a sentimental fool, and an on-again/off-again father who put earning money above domestic engagement. A liberal in his youth, he became conservative in middle age and a born-again liberal in his old age.

My father's choices taught me that men aren't very available and women just have to accept that. This set me up for a series of unsuccessful relationships. But he also taught me that all work is honorable, no matter what it is. That there is always a solution to a problem. That steadfastness is to be prized.

In 1999, three years before his death, I found a way to let go of all my old resentments with my dad and to become 100% responsible for the best possible relationship with him. Those three years were a huge gift to me of love and affection with him that I am so grateful for.

I very often feel my dad's presence and today is one of those days. I am grateful for that too.